Lots of people have been entering my mind including myself. Over and over I evaluate my own life. What a tremendous potentials God had loaded each of the normal human being. How exciting and meaningful a life can be in these varied environments and experiences. However everyone when reaching that responsible age must learn to exercise, accept & practice self-control.
These two children inside the dentist's clinic both came for tooth extraction. Both were 11 years old accompanied by their respective mother. One, graciously listened to her mother's voice and instructions from the dentist. The result: she immediately was relieved from toohache; she got better looking teeth and gave happiness to her companions. The other girl was the exact opposite. She vented her anger to her mother for forcing her to visit a dentist. She screamed, shout, cry and moved uncontrollably until the doctor chose not to do with the procedures. Every so often her teeth problem resurface and the common arguing with family members seems endless.
Let's view their home life. Both are girls aged 11 years old, from two different families. The obedient girl hails from a middle income father. She is surrounded by an unconditional love of parents. She doesn't get all of her wants but her parents made sure that basic needs are given to her. Her parents have clear rules inside the house for her to follow. They made sure that she understands her responsibilities and role as a dependent young girl since the time that she can be taught during childhood. She has a happy environment where tolerance for mistakes are considered and lots of mentoring with real life modelling are displayed. Her parents made sure they live out what they expect from their daughter. Turned out she's the most happy and responsible child, growing pleasantly and very respectable. She listens well, follows their instructions and knows how to establish goals with success. She's very proud of how her dad loves her mom very much and she too! She's growing very contented and appreciative.
With regards to the second girl, she is exposed to violence ever since she has recollection. She also has a middle-income family. Her parents are fighting almost everyday. Every time they fight, she's left alone hiding for fear they'll vent anger upon her. Many nights they forgot to eat supper and she went to sleep sobbing unknown to her parents. She keeps hatred inside her heart but the anger that's boiling inside is very evident with her. She learned to curse at an early age just like her mom and dad. At her very young age, she can tell lies very normally every time she commits mistakes in defense of herself from different kinds of punishments like letting her kneel on salt; locking inside her room for hours or telling her all kinds of negative comments...There are lots of discouragements more than the love and acceptance she is supposed to be enjoying from her own parents. It was very hard for her to love and respect others because of her environment in the home.
There is hope for every child put in care of the right person!